"Intimate relationships can bring up some of our deepest pain. While this may be very challenging, it can also give us a wonderful opportunity to heal and bring awareness to that which we have unconsciously learned in our families of origin. Through this awareness, we can then transform these old patterns that may be emerging in the present. A new freedom to give and receive love and experience joy together can be attained.
The following are some common issues;
transforming hot and cold conflict into peace and connection
reigniting a mutually satisfying sex life between partners and resolving issues around sex and sexuality
negotiating differences around sex drive
transforming blame and avoidance into mutual understanding and empathy
healing wounds of past sexual abuse that emerge around sex and sexuality in relationship
healing from broken agreements/affairs and creating a new relationship together
finding connection again when connection has been lost
negotiating issues with open relationships and non traditional lifestyles
In order to feel motivated and safe to explore challenging past and present patterns, we need enough of the neurotransmitter, dopamine, to be present in the brain. Dopamine can be induced through the felt experience of love with another. We also need a good supply of the neurotransmitter, acetylcholine, in order to consolidate changes in the brain from our old templates to new, more flexible ways of relating that are filled with more joy and less conflict and disconnection."
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