Healing from trauma is a different process for each person. As a trauma-focused therapist I never tell my clients to do anything that I haven"t tried or use regularly in my life. I have learned over the years through experience, research, feedback from clients and insights from other professional"s successful ways of healing emotional wounds as well as managing persistent stress. What I share with you here is both cutting edge and tried-and-true techniques for healing.
TRAUMA TIP #1
Relationships are so critical for good mental health. "The 5 Love Languages" book by Gary Chapman is a good book for couples to read to better understand how each communicates and to decipher their love language (how they give and receive love). This book has been helpful to many of my clients as it seems to give them the language that couples need to better be able to express themselves with their partner.
Buy the book, identify what love language you are and share that with your partner. Make a game out of it and ask your partner to guess what love language you are. Be playful in practicing what your partner needs from you in light of their love language. Be curious and observe how they respond to your attempts at responding to them from their love language category.
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TRAUMA TIP #2
Have you heard of the vagus nerve before? The vagus nerve is like an information highway. It helps the brain and body to talk to each other. It is constantly telling our brain how our body is feeling. Sometimes we need to pause to sort out what our body is telling our brain. Watch this cute short video discussing the vagus nerve. Learn trauma-informed concepts on how to take care of your mental health.
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