"Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) is based on adult attachment theory. It views the central problem in a distressed relationship as the loss of secure emotional connection and identifies the pattern of negative interactions that drives this loss of connection. Emotional signals that are meant to pull a partner closer or reduce conflict become distorted with criticism, anger or apparent indifference. Negative spirals of interaction then erode trust and create a sense of isolation for both partners. EFT helps partners to take control of this negative dance and to send emotional signals about attachment needs and fears in a way that encourages their partner to respond with love and compassion. A new emotional experience of secure connection leads to a sense that the other person can be accessible, responsive and engaged. Partners can receive positive answers to the key question, "Are you there for me?" Partners who are able to openly reach for and connect with each other can create a safe haven bond. This kind of bond promotes the growth and resilience of both individuals."