How we Apply Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples in Marriage Counseling | Integrity Counseling Center | Vancouver, WAQuoted From: https://integrity-counseling.com/emotionally-focused-therapy-eft/
"Many couples struggle to communicate their attachment needs for love,
appreciation, and support.
It is difficult to express our heartfelt feelings when we feel vulnerable, especially when our vulnerabilities trigger fear of rejection, mistrust or fears that we are not lovable.
These fears prevent us from being authentic and communicating our needs softly and directly.
Instead, we tend to complain about what we do not get, blame and accuse our partner, and often are not fully aware how our words may hurt our relationship.
Our cry for love and connection becomes an angry outburst that often triggers the partner"s sense of insecurity of being inadequate or a failure.
In turn, the partner may lash back by accusing, shutting down or withdrawing.
As a result, the emotional connection that you as a couple long for is broken.
The partners often feel alone, unappreciated, unloved and not heard.
We get relationship struggles.
And we want to experience a great marriage!"
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